Where to Find Me...

 I'll be continuing to blog and vlog away, but I'll mostly be at my author website, authorsarahdavid.wordpress.com/blog from here on out. You can check out my newest posts here.

The Art of Rejection

I'm really enjoying my new "walk and talk" vlog format, so I'm going to make a few more of these, hopefully one each week for the summer. This one focuses on three tips for dealing with rejections of any sort, but especially with writing submissions. 

Walk & Talk about #PitMad

Here's my second little "walk & talk" video about writing. This one is about writing events like #PitMad on Twitter. You can learn more about #PitMad here.

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The Querying Journey

I had the idea of creating more of a vlog than a blog starting this summer, so here are the two parts of my first vlog attempt below (interrupted due to phone storage issues AKA having 8 zillion pictures of my kids). In it, I'm discussing my new adventure into the land of literary queries after a several-year hiatus. For my non-writer friends, querying is the process of reaching out to these gate keepers of the publishing world (AKA literary agents) to hopefully get your book noticed by the big name publishers. 

I have been writing A LOT lately, at odd hours of the day and night, when not working or spending time with my kids. And I wrote more than I could ever have imagined during cancer treatment last year. Hence, this new journey begins:

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The Power of Reading

CoffeeSD · The Power of Reading

 

Each year, when I ask students what sorts of things they like to read, some of them inevitably tell me, “I don’t read.” I’m going to make a bold statement here and say that most problems in our world could be solved if people at all ages would read more often. It may sound like I’m being dramatic, but I’m 100% serious! And I have scientific backing.

Reading improves fluid intelligence, which is the ability to think critically and to detect patterns. It also establishes additional neurological connections and shows a likely link between reading and significantly higher IQ scores. For children especially, reading can make a significant difference in their future ability to make valuable brain connections. When a child doesn’t read, it creates a vast gulf that the child will never be able to bridge as an adult.

It may seem obvious that reading makes someone more intelligent, but there are other differences between readers and non-readers. Countless studies have shown that not only does reading relax people and help them sleep better, it also makes people more empathetic. Reading fiction in particular has been shown to boost compassion and create a more charitable mindset. Naturally, having a world in which more people are empathetic and compassionate would eliminate countless problems that exist, such as bullying and discrimination, as well as build larger-scale philanthropy that could eliminate issues as complex as world hunger and cancer. There are also direct connections between reading and future career potential as well as reading and broader social skills. Reading basically makes you a superhero.

                These are all reasons why I get so passionate about reading! Clearly, reading is a big deal. Maybe it seems a bit extreme, but I’d argue that going without your daily dose of books, especially as a kid or young adult, can actually be more damaging to your health than a daily sugary soda.

                When I think about the power of reading, I consider my struggling students, especially the ones who need so much more support than I can offer during our individual meetings every week. I wonder how much of a difference it would make if society placed a higher value on reading, if every parent pulled a book out each evening before bed.

The Most Human Question

CoffeeSD · Recording: The Most Human Question

 

I think that anyone who is diagnosed with a serious illness will ask the question, “Why me?” Especially if the person is young, or if it’s a particularly debilitating illness, it seems all the more frustrating: Why me? What did I do wrong? How did I bring this on myself?

            I was told (immediately after diagnosis by the doctor who called me with the news) that there was nothing I could have done to cause (or prevent) this cancer. Others reinforced this idea, as well as the fact that there was nothing I could do to stop it. Without medical intervention, of course. However, it’s almost impossible not to question. It’s human nature to be curious. We need to know the answers; we need to know the why. I felt like I’d been cursed with a disease out of the blue; there had to be a reason. 
           I looked for anything linked to decreasing your breast cancer risk, and I’d already been doing all of it. I’d breastfed, exercised, didn’t smoke, and had a healthy BMI. For several months every year, I eat organic vegetables straight from my own garden and from the farmer’s markets in town; I was perplexed as to how I could find food any fresher or healthier than that. Still, I got cancer.

So, I looked up every known factor that could have led to an increased risk of breast cancer. Not a single one applied to me. Nada. I didn’t have even one risk factor, yet I still got cancer.

Doom-scrolling one day, I saw a message on a cancer support website that “Cancer doesn’t care”. The article described so many people who lived healthy lifestyles but who were still diagnosed with cancer at young ages. There were vegans, fitness instructors, marathon-runners…pretty much anyone you would imagine to be the last person on earth to be diagnosed with cancer. It was disturbingly comforting because it meant I wasn’t the only one that felt unfairly targeted by this disease. These people were healthier than me! They’d done all the right things, like me-- quite frankly, way better than me-- and they still weren’t out of danger. Still, it was a conflicted, confusing feeling that left me frustrated.

Part of the frustration was not having any answers. When I finally did get some sort of answer, it took me in an unexpected direction: I had a CHEK2 genetic mutation. The CHEK2 gene typically helps with DNA repair; in my case, at any time, some event could trigger my mutation and this gene would then choose to not repair my DNA and instead give me cancer. (Note that my degrees are in writing and teaching, not in genetics, so I may be missing some crucial details, but still-- who gave this gene so much power? Did nobody quality check the CHEK?) Unfortunately, genetic mutations are one of the few risk factors that people have absolutely no control over. And so, alas, I did have a risk factor, but one that I couldn’t change. The CHEK2 mutation is thought to lead to a 20-25% increased risk of breast cancer, as well as an increased lifetime risk of colon and possibly other cancers (more research is needed). It’s less common than the BRCA1 and BRCA2 mutations, which carry a greater lifetime risk of breast cancer and are more well known. Still, known genetic mutations are only the cause of 5-10% of breast cancers! (Crazy, I know.) Researchers suspect there are more mutations that simply aren’t yet known, but there is still a whole lot of mystery in the cancer world.

I saw this firsthand in my Young Survivor Coalition discussion group the other day. (We’re a group of women who were diagnosed with breast cancer under age 40.) The women were discussing the idea of stress or trauma as possible causes of cancer. Some of the women seemed to find comfort in this possibility; again, I think about that natural human tendency to need a reason for why bad things happen. Still, most of these ideas regarding stress were dismissed or disproved; we know that there are other causes of cancer out there, but we simply don’t know enough about genetics or all the possible environmental risk factors at this time. Maybe someday oncologists really will have all the answers; for now, they are well-educated guessers. (I mean that in the nicest way, of course.) They use the evidence available to make the best predictions possible, but it seems the real reasons behind breast cancer are still more murky gray than black and white.

As I continued to question why myself and these other young women were diagnosed with cancer seemingly out of the blue, I realized that asking myself these questions wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I could take myself on a downward spiral asking why bad things happen to good people, but I needed to focus my attention in a positive direction.

I felt more motivated to try to do something, even if all I could do were seemingly tiny things. Could I be positive influence on my kids and students? Of course. Could I try to bring joy and laughter to other people? Certainly. Could I donate a little time or money to others? Sure. Could I write something that makes a valuable impression on someone, even inspires them? I hope so. I considered what gifts I was born with and focused on how I should use them. Maybe I could even join my gifts together with others and make a greater difference in this crazy world. 

Maybe we don’t need an answer for our hardships; we need to create our own reason for getting through them. We need growth even when life forces us through regression. To me, going through cancer was a little like being a phoenix: I had to go through the fires of treatment, but I could still be reborn from the ashes.

All the Small Things: Life Lessons from a Survivor During a Pandemic

Last weekend marked one year since the original date of a concert I was going to attend with my youngest sister to celebrate being halfway done with chemotherapy. The concert was cancelled abruptly a couple days beforehand as everything began closing down (and has since been postponed two other times). I assume at some point, we'll get to go see the band play, although it's becoming more difficult to picture the packed Target Center. It's funny to think that if I'd bought tickets for just a slightly earlier date, we may have actually seen them last year.

Those first few weeks of the shut down last year, I remember feeling very oddly like I was in a movie. Specifically, a zombie movie. (Yes, that's right.) It may be because Zombieland: Double Tap was the last movie Eli and I saw in a theatre, but I swear for a while, the combination of my body falling apart from the chemo and the news making me feel like the world outside was falling apart had me peering out the windows like I was anticipating a hoard of monsters to come rushing toward our front door.

We never needed to barricade our door, though we did need to turn the news off after a while. Life went from shock to surrealism to something maybe akin to acceptance, and we kept moving along. There's a lot of nostalgia out there right now, but I feel like that can get in the way of growth sometimes. I'm sure some probably feel that they changed or grew (or admittedly, regressed) in some way this last year, and I think we can take a lot of what we learned to make things better. 

Especially as a kid but even as an adult, I used to picture life as a series of boring moments until something big and exciting would happen: holidays, large gatherings, a family trip somewhere, a friend's party. I would always find myself counting down the days until the next exciting *big thing*. I mentioned waiting for that concert with Andrea. When that was cancelled, I thought I needed something else to celebrate: I planned to visit some friends and have a night on the town! Then bars and restaurants shut down, and I needed a new plan again. Everything kept getting foiled until I ended up... like, simply toasting my husband with a beer at our kitchen table. I remember being so frustrated last March: wasn't it bad enough I had cancer and had to go through all this awful treatment-- now I couldn't even have any fun? But then I realized I had to switch my thinking around. It took a little time, but I started to really appreciate all of life's little boring moments. Honestly. 

Of course, it was difficult to have three small kids at home when I was going through all the cancer stuff. Really, though, it was a blessing in disguise. Little kids have such a unique way of looking at the world. They see the simplest things as wondrous. Something like reading a favorite bedtime story or sitting outside enjoying the sunshine on your back feels special, almost sacred. I've watched my kids be amused by an ant crossing a beach blanket or the sound of a leaf underfoot. When you pause like a child and live fully in the moment, it's actually difficult to be bored. I still love being over-productive, but I started to really enjoy all of the ordinary, seemingly boring days. We took little walks as a family and did chores together. I asked my toddler what he was building with blocks and we've helped each other design a bunch of different "robots". I asked my 6-year-old to pick out a book for us to read together, and he now brings home a few of our favorite series each week from the school library. The baby and I spent (and still do) a lot of time admiring the different birds eating in our feeder and our chickens in the backyard.

I think joy in the ordinary things is probably three parts living the moment, one part empathy, because you have to occasionally embrace empathy to enjoy something a small person wants to do that you may find dull. For instance, reading "Mighty, Mighty Construction Site" for the hundredth time with my two-year-old is not exactly thrilling to me as an avid reader, but when I see his eyes light up, I make the truck noises and bounce him along to the rumbling construction work. He is having his best moment, so that can also be my best moment. 

This past year, so much interaction has moved online. I've seen a lot of people argue, grow bitter, or belittle others. It was hard to see society seemingly growing more distant and hard-hearted, especially when I felt like I was moving in the opposite direction. Talking to other survivors, I've found a common thread: cancer seems to make a person more empathetic, as you can suddenly relate to emotional, physical, financial, etc. pains of so many others. But of course you don't have to go through cancer to feel empathy. When we have our "keyboard warrior" weapons out, it's easy to say things we wouldn't in person. 

Still, it doesn't have to be that way. I've looked more carefully at some of my students' emails this year, especially ones that I would be quick to consider "rude" in previous years. Tone is tough online, and everyone is going through something weird and difficult; it isn't that hard to think it through and be more understanding. We've heard it a lot, but it still applies: walk a mile in someone else's shoes. We don't always all agree, but taking the time to listen can go a long way to understanding. I've always thought I was a good listener, but lately I've been doubling down. I'm shy around new people, and I've wondered in the past if that makes me less approachable, but this year I've found myself just being myself a bit more wherever I am: in my virtual classroom, at the doctor's office, online-- asking people how they're doing and sharing something that I hope makes them laugh. I'm appreciating the beauty in everything small, from acts of kindness to simple conversation. 

"Magic Bridges"

If you know my writing style, you'll know that I don't typically gravitate toward poetry, but I've also found it very healing this past year as I complete cancer treatment during a pandemic. This poem was partially inspired by a student from my Creative Writing class who was comparing magical realism to historical fiction one day. 

I wonder about the magic of our own histories,

How we brave pain with a deep breath and

dash of imagination.

Neuropathy tingles in my fingers like a

spell for release

This toxic IV is a paradox of healing:

         a magic potion extending my life

After the doctors cut me open,

          did they stich me with gemstones and rose petals?

A machine whispers a vignette of fire,

                you kill a bit of yourself to kill this disease.

Can I wrest every last cancer trope out of Hollywood

and trample them beneath my boots?

Can we cover our every scar beneath ink,

like murals over broken bridges?  

I've walked miles in a soul grown old too soon,

but my soles will continue to tread this ground. 

We each tell our own story,

    measuring out how much history, 

        how much magic.

Sarah’s Oversimplified Guide to Breast Cancer

Throughout this year, my understanding of my own cancer (and cancer as a whole) has kept evolving. A year ago today, when I first got the call, all I could think was “WHAT?!” amidst the buzz of white noise in the background: “Am I dying?”

The average person (unless they happen to be an oncologist) really doesn’t know much or think much about cancer. That is, until they or someone the know has it. It’s inevitable that you’ll someday know a woman who has or had breast cancer, whether it’s a family member, a colleague, a friend... There are men who develop breast cancer, too, of course, but it’s a much smaller chance: 1 out of every 100 breast cancers diagnosed is found in men.

I know that I didn’t think much about breast cancer at all before my diagnosis. I’d been tuned into it a bit more because, the year before my own diagnosis, a friend and coworker of mine was diagnosed. I’d seen her do so well with treatment that I realized there must be more to this word “cancer” than my automatic fearful assumptions. Don’t get me wrong-- it’s still probably some of the most distressing news you can receive from your doctors, but although not yet considered “curable”, most cancers are more survivable these days than ever before. Metastatic breast cancer, also called stage 4, is the only kind of breast cancer that kills, because it has spread to vital organs. My husband and my dad both came to my first appointment with my oncologist, and my dad had asked him the prognosis. He replied that if the disease had only spread regionally (we already knew it was in at least one lymph node in my underarm), it was “essentially curable”. If it had spread to vital organs, he noted more quietly, I had approximately “3-5 years”. 

There are technically 5 stages of breast cancer: stage 0, 1, 2, 3, and 4. Scans a few weeks after my initial visit verified that the cancer hadn’t spread beyond my lymph nodes, so due to the large size of the tumor, I was considered stage 3. Stage 0, ductal carcinoma in situ, is technically not cancer but a pre-cancer stage. If a person is diagnosed with stage 0, though, they’re not out of the woods. They will likely have to undergo a mastectomy or lumpectomy and radiation because it will become cancer eventually; preventative surgery is the best way to stop it. Stage 1 is when one or more tumors have been detected in the breast but have not yet spread beyond the breast tissue; stage 2 and 3 are similar, but stage 3 means the tumor is larger and/or more lymph nodes are involved. Stages 2 and 3 usually require chemotherapy to stop the cancer from spreading; at stage 1, doctors will use other information to make that decision. Neoadjuvant chemotherapy is when you receive chemotherapy before surgery to shrink the tumor and stop the spread; adjuvant is when you receive chemo after the initial treatment, to destroy remaining cancer cells. My plan involved neoadjuvant chemotherapy, which started two weeks after the birth of my son (because post-partum life isn't difficult enough, right?).

Left: The day I received my diagnosis, Dec. 30, 2019
Right: Dec. 2020, post-treatment and "NED"!

There are other considerations besides the staging of breast cancer. It’s a cancer that can often be driven by hormones, so many women have ER+ or PR+ cancer, which means that their estrogen or progesterone are driving the tumor’s growth and spread; they will usually need to take other medications or chemotherapy to stop this type of cancer and to prevent their cancer from returning. They may also need or be encouraged to undergo additional surgeries, such as a hysterectomy or oophorectomy; they would discuss this with physicians. There was also another factor contained in some breast cancers, a protein called HER2. This protein was discovered in 1987, the same year that I was born, and it would turn out that this is the type of cancer I was diagnosed with. My tumor was ER-/PR-/HER2+. Just a couple decades ago, this type of cancer was feared; today, I could almost see my oncologist’s sigh of relief at the pathology report. There are chemotherapy drugs these days that are really good at treating this aggressive form of cancer. For instance, my tumor was larger than 10 cm and seemed to have tripled in size during the three months when I first noticed something was off and when I was finally able to begin treatment. However, during chemotherapy, the drugs basically incinerated my cancer, and there were no remaining traces of my tumor during surgery. Thus, the doctors say I had a “pathologic complete response”, a pretty amazing response to chemo. It’s not unusual for patients who have HER2+ breast cancer to respond really well to chemotherapy, but it seems to be most difficult to effectively treat patients who have triple negative breast cancer (not ER, PR, or HER2 positive); though they certainly can have a good response, more research needs to be done to help patients in that scenario. Of course, the most research needs to be done for women with stage 4 cancer, whom cancer impacts daily.

As a stage 3 patient with HER2+ cancer, I received six rounds of neoadjuvant chemo, a mastectomy and removal of five lymph nodes in my underarm, and 25 rounds of adjuvant radiation. None of those treatments alone should be taken lightly, and together, they can really wreak havoc on your body. Still, they are preferable to dying.

So that’s breast cancer in a nutshell, from an English teacher/writer/kickass survivor mom’s perspective. I’ve learned that, though I am now considered cancer-free, doctors can never guarantee that surgery, chemo, and radiation destroyed all of a breast cancer patient’s stray cancer cells. This is why they don’t typically say someone is “cured”, but instead use the terminology “NED” or “No evidence of disease”. 

They watch patients most closely the 5-10 years following the completion of the treatment plan because that’s when any microscopic cancer cells that, if they were missed, will reveal themselves as they settle somewhere else in a person’s body. That is probably the most terrifying thing about being a cancer survivor: you can never know with 100% certainty that the cancer is gone. Headaches, bone aches, and other pains can leave you wondering if it’s the cancer recurring in a place where it can’t easily be fought or removed. This is why many doctors will prefer a more aggressive treatment plan; they want to eliminate that potential for recurrence. 1/3 of women who are diagnosed with early stage breast cancer will go on to become metastatic, and that often happens 5-10 years after their initial diagnosis. My oncologist reassured me that, with my response to chemo and my team’s aggressive plan, my odds of recurrence are less than 6%, which sounds promising. I’ve also told myself that I can’t spend my time worrying. I’d rather do something fun-- spend time with my family and friends, go outside, walk, write, read, travel, dance, live-- whatever it may be. Cancer sucks: there is no way around that, but you can look at it a thousand different ways. I am going to choose to look at it as a rebirth. I can take this time to appreciate everything more, knowing that every day is a chance to do something meaningful and special, no matter how small or simple it may seem, and to look for opportunities where I can make a difference for others.

Sources: 

Radical: The Science, Culture, and History of Breast Cancer in America by Kate Pickert

Twisting Fate: My Journey with BRCA-- from Breast Cancer Doctor to Patient and Back by Pamela Munster

My team of doctors, nurses, etc. at Mayo, who patiently answer all my questions

Young Survival Coalition Facebook group's women, who have so much to share

3rd Annual June Writing Challenge!

In April and May, I didn't write as much as I'd hoped. I think I was in survival mode. I don't say that to be dramatic; I think trying to power through chemotherapy just took a lot of my energy, and what was left over went to my family and job. Dealing with a pandemic probably didn't help. My creativity seemed tapped out, too. If my energy was one of those bars in a video game, it would have been flashing under my character, signaling immediate need to replenish.

As May ended, I felt able to dive back into my writing. I did a lot of reading from so many different perspectives, which I think helped, and my family and I took a little trip with a lot of fresh air. It also probably didn't hurt that the school year wrapped up and I was able to come up for a breath from under the last-minute rush of student work. In short, June has been a much more productive writing month!

Last year, I did my 2nd annual "June Writing Month", since November is too busy for teachers, as I like to say. I have been writing a lot this month. I've gotten about 20,000 words down in a new story that I've been writing, bringing that manuscript to nearly 40,000 words. It's coming along nicely, and some days I've gotten into a nice flow where the words are dancing onto the paper (or the screen, I suppose). It's so refreshing after the tapped-out feeling of April and May. I'm going to keep moving along with my writing next month, as I've learned there is actually a Camp NaNoWriMo in July! How on earth did I miss that? Well, I've joined in now, and I'll be looking for writing buddies at Camp if anyone's interested.


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This new story was partially inspired by the cancer diagnosis, so I guess there was some positive light shed there. Without getting completely into it, I will say that it's sort of a superhero story and sort of a thriller, with speculative elements thrown in. The narrator's experience is somewhat similar to mine. I have a ton of thoughts about this story right now, and I'm not 100% sure how it's going to pan out, but I've done my usual outlining and a lot of free-writing and typing, typing, typing. While I'm not certain where exactly it fits genre-wise, I'm really excited about it! I think it also helps to distract me from the wait for surgery right now and the uncertainty of whether or not I'll have to go through radiation as well later this summer. I'm going to keep on writing, regardless, through cancer and beyond.

Breast Cancer Warrior: When You Want to Know Everything

One thing you might know about me is that I love learning. I guess that's probably a big part of why I'm a teacher. I always want to know more about a topic, whether it's related to my career or not. Sometimes this has gotten me in trouble. I would occasionally morph into "Harriet the Spy" mode as a kid, trying to overhear something intriguing or wander into places that were off-limits with the thought that I was having some sort of grand adventure or solving a mystery. Looking back now, I realize I was probably being annoying, but I was just ridiculously curious.

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I still have an obsession with learning. Although I already have a Master's degree, I'm seriously considering going back to school again (not anytime soon, but some day) to learn more, and you can bet I'm going to take advantage of the plethora of free online courses and teacher resources I see being offered this summer.

My obsession with learning comes into play with cancer, too, and I sometimes feel like I'm back in that childish spy mode again when I'm struggling to learn more about what the heck is going on in my body, as if I'm trying to find out more than I really should or like I'm going in the wrong direction.

The hard part is, at least from what I keep hearing, every cancer is different. So, theoretically, you could learn all there is to know about breast cancer but still not fully understand your own breast cancer. I'm finding that my doctors will take the time to explain things to me, which I appreciate, but that I always leave appointments with more questions. They answer the "how" and the "what", "when", and "where" really well, but I find that I always have more "why" questions. And maybe those are ones that doctors just don't answer or that are the toughest to answer or maybe they don't really have an answer. Like, "Why did I get cancer?" The one who came closest to answering that was the genetic counselor, who explained how a mutation in my gene made me more susceptible to this situation, but I'm not sure if there's an actual answer out there for why this happened to me at this particular time in my life. It's borderline frustrating to me, the endlessly curious, to not have an answer to this.

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I guess the "why" is the toughest question to answer in any situation. Those are the ones that can sometimes stump me in the classroom, like the students who ask, "Why do they call it a 'gerund'?" or "Why do we have to do MLA citations like this, but they do APA citations like that?" Those are the sorts of questions I usually don't know off-hand-- the ones I have to research after class so that I can have an acceptable answer for our next meeting. And sometimes there are more complex questions that don't have a simply answer or that have multiple answers or that simply can't be answered.

And I'm not sure if some of my questions can't be answered or if they could be, but with extra research and time. Sometimes I ask them, but sometimes I don't-- either because I don't think of them until later or because I can't think of a way to ask them in a logical way in the middle of an appointment. As I keep moving through this whole cancer journey, I think maybe I'll become better at knowing which questions to ask.

I hear a lot from my doctors about "the standard" for treatment and details about what the treatment does as well as a lot about "being aggressive" in treatment, but those aren't necessarily the types of answers I'm looking for when I ask my "why" questions. I guess, maybe, sometimes, I just don't hear the answer I want or maybe I'm not even sure what I want to hear. Maybe my constant curiosity comes down to this: even after my question is answered, I'll want to ask it again from a different angle until I feel confident that I know more about the topic. Maybe I'm still that annoying "Harriet the Spy" wannabe, or maybe it's just my way of dealing with this tough situation. Either way, by the time this is all over, I'm sure I'll have my own answers to these "why" questions-- I just hope that I get them right.

Breast Cancer Warrior: Breaking Point

What's your breaking point? I feel like this is a question that has been explored a lot recently with COVID-19 taking over our daily lives and creating a lot of uncertainty about our health, finances, and future. This upheaval stretches and stresses us beyond what we think we can handle.

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When I was first diagnosed with cancer, I found that my breaking point was a question I thought about a lot. Would I be able to handle treatment? Then, as I got to thinking about it a bit more, I realized that I didn't really have an alternative: I would have to go through treatment if I wanted to survive cancer. It wasn't really a choice. I realized, though, that there are a lot of places where we can gain strength even as we approach our own breaking points. We don't have to do anything alone.

Now, there are plenty of reasons to break down. I like to rant sometimes because I think it can help, so here's my rant: I HATE CHEMO!!!! (Yes, I do need all those exclamation points.) I started chemotherapy only two weeks after my son was born; postpartum check-ups to resume normal activity don't even happen that early, so I feel like I totally drew the short straw there. Cancer is a thief in many ways, including stealing my energy and freedom. I spent a lot of time in my house in January and February thinking to protect myself (and Corey) from the flu, just to find a new and worse virus circulating the world as it starts to warm up: cue extreme cabin fever. I feel extra trapped during the stay at home order because of my compromised immune system, and now I get anxious thinking about going places when I normally, weirdly, actually enjoyed running errands. Chemo only gets harder as I battle through each round. And those side effects-- everything tastes like chlorine to me right now, my eyes and skin are as dry as a desert, and I feel sore and sick and tired. Last week, I took a short drive because I needed at least a mini change of scenery; I decided to scream as loud as I could to let the frustration out, but it just made my sore throat hurt worse. BLEH!!

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There. Rant over. Whew. So, I've had an extra tough year, and it's only April, but I've been thinking about how we keep going despite the tough times. Embrace your own rants. Whine about everything that went wrong this year and scream out the car window. I'm no expert, but I feel like it's good for you. Then, shake it off and make a plan of action. Realize this moment is not forever, and that we can look back and, maybe not laugh, but at least sigh and say, Thank God that's over! And probably cry.

Your "plan of action" can be actual physical action that you take, or, what's been tougher for me to accept, non-action. Sometimes you just need to rest and rely on everybody else for a bit. Some of my best supports in this time have been friends and family sending letters and food and other thoughtful items, keeping me in their prayers, simply calling or messaging more, and letting me know that they're behind me. Somehow it makes me feel stronger than I really am. Instead of a being an average-sized woman, I feel more like the Hulk when I walk into the clinic. It's cheesy, yes, and you know I'm gonna find a Hulk dancing gif to put in here now. There we go:

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Knowing I've got my team behind me makes me feel stronger. I'm notorious for wanting to do everything myself and for taking on too much, but cancer treatment isn't something you can take on along with a ton of other baggage. You'll get burned out. There's that breaking point again. So as cliché as it sounds, I'm learning to let go and rely more on others. If you're like me at all, or if you're just feeling stressed from all the chaos in our world right now, I hope that can help you, too. Maybe you can picture yourself as a superhero, too, if it helps. On the days where I feel small or weak, I can imagine Hulk Sarah strutting into Outpatient Services, slurping up a Docetaxel cocktail and smashing the IV stand while roaring in victory. Or, you know, just calmly and quietly doing my chemo like a normal human while being tough on the inside. 😉

Breast Cancer Warrior: My Chemo Playlist

Before I went in for my 4th round of chemotherapy early last week, I'd learned that I wouldn't be able to have any visitors due to new coronavirus restrictions. I met friends and family via Zoom, which was so helpful, but I also came prepared with my chemo playlist to help distract me.

Each song has its reason for being on here, which I've noted below. I have a tendency toward alternative and punk rock, and it's been that way for as long as I can remember.

1. This is how I feel some days during or shortly after chemo: Green Day: "Brain Stew".

2. This is how I feel some other days (usually right before another round): Florence & The Machine: “Dog Days Are Over” This song is also on here because Florence Welch is a cool ginger, like myself. ;)

3. The Lumineers: “Big Parade” is on the list because I was supposed to go see them in concert with one of my sisters as a celebration of getting halfway through chemo in mid-March. Unfortunately, COVID-19 crushed those dreams, and I had to celebrate small (i.e. my favorite beer and a new show on Netflix).

Since I was daydreaming of concerts I'd like to attend, I did get to see these two bands in person last fall: 4. Black Keys: “Gold on the Ceiling” and 5. Modest Mouse: “Dashboard”. Both of these songs rocked at the concert, so they made my list.

6. This video includes joyful dancing and somewhat psychedelic colors, and I always find the Yeah Yeah Yeahs' music oddly soothing: “Turn Into”.

7. This one sums up how I'll probably feel when I'm done with treatment: Imagine Dragons: "On Top of the World". I also put 8. "Thunder" here because it's my kids' favorite song and brings to mind their crazy dance moves.  

9. "We Will Become Silhouettes" by The Shins. I think the lyrics make this one a bonus quarantine song.

10. Finally, any playlist about being strong during tough times needs a survival song: Destiny's Child: "Survivor"

Breast Cancer Warrior: Chemo in the Time of Coronavirus

Every news story I've watched or read the last two weeks has included some angle about the coronavirus. It’s insane how intensely (and how quickly) this has impacted the lives of everybody. “Social distancing” is the new lifestyle, and, at least here in Wisconsin, most places have closed, including libraries, schools, bars, churches, malls, and gyms, and other places are operating with restrictions, like credit unions that are only using their drive-thru area or restaurants that only offer pick-up service. It's unnerving to see so many shutting their doors, but I did read an article this weekend that offered the hope that if we do this whole "social distancing" thing correctly-- and quickly-- we'll be able to get back to normal sooner than later. The same article describes a rather bleak outlook if we don't do this right, so I'm trying to think positively. Still, I think it's fair to say that this is a rather troubling time. 

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It’s especially frightening when dealing with cancer and chemotherapy amidst a health crisis. Chemo has weakened my normally not-so-bad immune system to the point that I’m still dealing with a cold that I had when I started chemo nearly two months ago. To be fair,  I think most of my symptoms from my cold are finally gone-- maybe it’s truly leaving!-- and I am just dealing with an extremely runny nose (which I'm partially blaming on the fact that all my nose hairs are now gone). One odd phenomenon about these closures is that, with chemo and a newborn, I was already not going out much. I was trying to keep Corey and me both away from germs as well as needing more rest than usual from the effects of chemo. Now, with everyone else stuck at home, I feel oddly more connected. In facing a pandemic, we're suddenly all in this boat together, in a weird, distant way.


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Times like these can bring out the best or the worst in people. I'm sure everyone's seen frustrating stories about people who are hoarding toilet paper and cleaning supplies, but I've also seen a lot of positive stories in my own community. In a local Facebook group, residents have been asking if their elderly neighbors need someone to grab groceries or supplies for them for them or if people who suddenly have their children at home need free assistance with childcare. I even saw one local family leaving a table of canned goods and paper products out in their driveway for any neighbors in need. Stories like these show how a crisis can bring out the best in people.

When I first saw COVID-19 spiraling closer to home, I found myself thinking, "Seriously?! Can we not do a global pandemic when I'm going through chemotherapy?" The timing was ridiculous enough that I wasn't sure if I should laugh or cry.  (I mean, for real, what are the odds?!) Then, I quickly realized that everyone has their own issues that they're facing during this crisis, whether it's a health issue like myself...or being laid off for an unknown amount of time...or facing additional stress if your job takes you to the front line in battle against the virus...or fear if you find yourself ill....or even simply feeling disconnected from others when you can't go about life as usual. We all have our unique struggles, but we can unite to make them less difficult. I was comforted by all of the people who reached out to me when they heard about my breast cancer diagnosis, and I hope we can all reach out to one another as we together face this unprecedented time. While keeping a six-foot distance, of course. ;)

Breast Cancer Warrior: Two Under Two Plus Cancer

I had a really weird dream the other night. I was in a dimly-lit room, a combination movie theatre/computer lab/lecture hall. A large projector screen that took up the entire front of the room, and rows of desks and swivel chairs led up a staircase toward the back of the room. At a front table separate from the rows of desks, I stood beside people who, despite their different appearance in my dream, I knew to be the oncology staff. My doctor was explaining the results of another test, which were projected on the huge screen-- some colors and shapes on a skeletal outline.

For some bizarre reason, I was also trying to teach my students at the same time from this position at the front of the room, though they weren't just my college or high school students. Students of all ages were coming up to me and asking about schoolwork that they had on their own computer screens. Some waved me over to desktop computers that were anchored to the desks; others carried tablets over to me. I moved throughout the room to assist everyone. Many were calling my name and asking questions at the same time. Then, the big screen that was supposed to be showing my test results kept switching to math equations and reading selections from the students' computers. (I don’t know why my dream students were asking me to solve math problems-- they were going to be sorely disappointed with the results.)

During all of this chaos, the doctor and nurses followed me around, trying to get me back to the front of the room. Whenever the screen switched to a student’s work, the doctor and nurses had to try to figure out how to get my results back on the screen. At one point, a small kid ran over asking for help with his iPad, and I realized it was my oldest son, Rayden, but with red hair. I showed him how to type out the letters to move a little mouse icon across a huge ditch -- some kind of game he was playing. When I turned around, there were now two new doctors telling me that they couldn’t see my test results here and that we needed to do another test instead.

I felt like I was being pulled in multiple directions throughout the dream-- from the doctors to the students asking questions to my own son wanting help with his little game. I remember my head turning back and forth throughout the dream, always spotting someone demanding something from behind me no matter what direction I turned.

I woke up with a start. When I recounted the dream to my husband, minutes later, I realized aloud that it was basically my life right now: being pulled in so many directions. I laughed. It hadn’t been a scary dream, just a vividly realistic and slightly off-putting one. I guess I do feel that I’m being pulled in different ways and that I don’t always have control of the direction. I’m not sure if my subconscious thinks I’m handling it well or not the way the dream played out. 

While they weren’t present in my dream, my two youngest have pulled me in different ways, as well. Not in a bad way. Just in a busy way where I spend a lot of time feeding tiny people, cleaning up after them, and changing diapers. I enjoy watching my kids’ antics. The other day, after bath time, when I thought my middle child was snugly wrapped in his towel toga for a second so that I could grab a glass of water from the kitchen, he suddenly came dancing in, completely naked, playing a toy harmonica.

Moments like this, I can’t help but laugh. It’s entertaining to watch all three of my kids interact, too. My oldest asks nonstop questions, both serious and humorous, about everything under the sun, from his schoolwork to my appearance to philosophical ponderings about life and death. My toddler’s favorite pastime is pulling all of the puzzles and board games off the shelf and spreading the detritus throughout the house. Even the newborn watches his brothers with wide eyes, taking it all in, probably learning how to pull a book off the shelf at the perfect angle so that all of the other toys come tumbling down, or how to smash banana bread into clothing at the right consistency so that it doesn’t come off.

While it can be chaotic, I think it’s also comforting. It might be easier to feel more down about the cancer if I wasn’t watching my kids cuddle (or, let's be honest, wrestle is probably a more accurate word most of the time, but I swear they're wrestling in a loving way). I can look around my house and see that I have my own little team of supporters right at home with me every day, cheering me up, making me laugh, and keeping me busy-- usually all at once.

Breast Cancer Warrior: My Unresearched but Maybe Somewhat Helpful Guide to Dealing with Postpartum Chemotherapy

The adage “If you don’t laugh, you’ll cry” seems pretty applicable when you’re going through a tough time. I think that’s why I tend to lean toward humor whenever I’m faced with a challenge, and it’s typically worked well for me over the years. I realize at the moment I’m going through a double-challenging time. Postpartum can be chaotic and overwhelming, and coupling it with a cancer diagnosis and treatment is, quite frankly, a lot. Still, thinking of the “best medicine” of laughter, I can keep myself feeling relatively normal-ish.

There are some side effects that are sort of tough to tell if they’re from the chemo or from being postpartum. I swear it would be super helpful if there was a how-to guide on the market, like a So You’ve Been Diagnosed with Breast Cancer at the End of Pregnancy and Now You’re Dealing with Chemo after just Having Pushed a Watermelon-Sized Human Out of Your Body: For Dummies.

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It could answer so many questions! Usually my BFF when it comes to quick searches for kid issues and teacher prep materials, Google has been fairly inadequate in addressing issues about my particular cancer diagnosis. Note that I do know Google is certainly not the end-all research tool; I do teach college composition, after all. However, I also know from my work as a teacher that, tragically, most people won’t look much beyond the first page of a Google search result when conducting research, especially casual research to answer immediate questions.

If I find others in my same scenario and compile their insight, maybe I can create this guide. Until then, I’ve decided to go ahead and be my usual somewhat silly self here and share some of my ponderings from treatment during this unusual time. I’ll add where my searches have led me astray, and my own random conclusions:

When your hair is falling out, how can you tell whether it’s that postpartum hair loss or the Taxotere kicking in?

Google’s Search Results: Articles about postpartum hair loss, mainly, as well as a surprising story about a woman who went completely bald postpartum. Mayo’s site about chemo-related hair loss was thrown in, too. (And, of course, some links led to ads for exciting hair implants.)

My Unscientific Answer: If you can make a legit wig (or meal) for your Cabbage Patch Doll with the hair you pull out casually scratching your head, then it’s probably the chemo. If it’s some stray strands falling out with a brush or in the shower, then it’s postpartum. Maybe? I do remember being unhappily surprised with the amount of hair I lost after my second child. 


Scarf and shades = 1960's movie star vibes?

 When you’re dealing with haywire emotions, how can you tell if they’re from the chemo/cancer or from  postpartum hormones?

Google’s Search Results: Lots of links to postpartum depression screenings and women’s blog stories about PPD. Helpful certainly in some scenarios, but not what I need.

My Unscientific Answer: If you grew teary-eyed over that stinkin' adorable Pampers commercial and spent half the night cuddling your new munchkin, it's the "baby blues"; if emotions affect your ability to cope/parent, they may be linked to postpartum depression. If they seem tethered to an extreme annoyance/frustration with cancer, my money's on the chemo.

 Was that bizarre acne attack that I had the week after chemo caused by the chemo itself or a weird combination of postpartum hormones, stress, and the steroids I was given with chemo?

Google’s Search Results: A combination of posts from women dealing with postpartum acne and people who underwent chemo sharing their home remedies for acne. The phrase “natural ingredients” is tossed around quite a bit.

My Unscientific Answer: Jury’s still out on this one. I’m also not sure what fixed it-- the prescription one of the oncologists gave me or my own combination of products I gathered at Walgreens. What I do know is that my face cleaned up quickly but was dry as sandpaper last week-- and the frigid winter air is probably only partly to blame. I do long for spring, though.

Is that horrible neck and hip pain I had the weekend after chemo 100% related to that Neulasta shot that stimulates white blood cell growth in my bone marrow, or was the pain amplified due to the weird hip and spine issues I had during the last trimester of pregnancy? (And, if so, can I have that super helpful D.O. adjust me again?)

Google’s Search Results: Fairly helpful this time around, showing me a list of side effects from Neulasta, including people who experienced hip pain and neck stiffness to varying degrees.

My oncologist and nurses (ah-ha! A trusted resource!): You can go ahead and try an adjustment, but the bone pain will likely still continue to some degree. This seems to be due to the depth, location, and cause of the pain. 

My Unscientific Answer: I’m thinking this is related to the shot mainly, but I’m sure the way my hips and pelvis shifted during pregnancy didn’t help. Just before I was adjusted in December, the doctor showed me how one of my legs was actually two inches shorter than the other due to my pelvic bone’s movement during pregnancy. Intriguing! It certainly explained that gangsta preggo limp I'd developed.

While maybe not terribly credible, perhaps this can be a starting point for others in a similar situation (or simply a little lighthearted, free therapy). I’ll always value laughter and the strength it can lend. Although not directly connected, I’ve always seen a tie between the adage of the importance of laughter and Bible verses about how we humans aren’t of this world so we have to be greater than it. Even if we have a body that feels weak and awfully mortal at times, we also have a soul that can be much more durable than that. So laugh, don’t cry (well, sometimes-- tears are therapeutic, too), and be stronger than you think you can be.

Breast Cancer Warrior: Buying Chemo

There is a setting in my vehicle for driving in snow and ice. When I flip that switch, the SUV slows down.You can feel the wheels pulling more cautiously at the road, feeling tentatively for traction and taking the time to confirm that they've secured it. It feels more sluggish to drive in this setting. The car doesn't really want to move faster than 40MPH, and, to be honest, that's about as fast as I'd want to go on slick roads anyway. I felt that way during the first week after chemotherapy. It's like my body was moving more sluggishly, more tentatively through its environment. Hopefully, like with my vehicle's features, it was with a purpose-- my body calculating what it needed and working to gain the upper hand against cancer. There was now an official war waging inside my body between an intense drug cocktail and the existing tumor invasion, and a large part of my energy had to be shifted over to battle.

"What are the advantages of doing chemo?" I'd asked my oncologist the week before. "Can we just do surgery? Can't we just cut the tumor out and skip chemo?" It seemed simple in my non-medical mind: cut out the bad piece and things would go back to normal, right?

He explained the issues with trying to remove a large, growing tumor, and how we would need to reign in its growth before surgery. "That is where chemotherapy comes in. With an aggressive tumor, we need to do the chemo first to stop its spreading. There is also the possibility, if the tumor shrinks enough, that you would need a less invasive surgery."

Chemo scared me. Whenever I pictured "chemo patient" in my mind, I imagined a bald, frail, sickly person. I wanted to be strong and present for my kids, my husband, my friends, and my students. How could I attend to all my responsibilities if I wasn't at my best condition? It was tough to mentally wrap my mind around slowing myself down. I wanted to live at my normal pace. I don't like being still for long. I typically don't even like spending an entire day at home.

A lot of my fear about chemo was a fear of the unknown. I would have to face my fear, especially when the MRI confirmed the large size of the tumor: 6cm by 3.5cm by 6cm. It had grown quite a bit since the earlier estimate at the biopsy the month before, and I was starting to understand what my oncologist meant about it being "aggressive". We had to rage war against this thing, stat.

Another fear was of simply putting a bunch of drugs into my body. As I joked to my husband the day before chemo, "I eat a ton of veggies and I don't even drink soda. Are these weird chemicals going to send my body into shock?" The only "prescription" I'd been taking for the last few years was a prenatal vitamin, for Pete's sake. Now I was just supposed to pour a bunch of hardy drugs straight into my veins? Wouldn't my system be overwhelmed? Would it go into some kind of lock-down? Would it send out the missile defense? Was there a secret self-destruct button some understated organ like my liver or kidneys would push when they tasted Taxotere?

I realized that I had to shove my worries aside. We can let our fears get the best of us, but that only leads to other negative emotions. I could instead focus on the positive. Bringing something fun to do, trying to get a laugh out of my oncology nurses, and joking with my ever-entertaining husband would make chemo a less frightening environment. I took a few deep breaths and felt at peace that, even though I was walking through a tough time now, everything would work out eventually. Family and friends were praying for me, I was praying for strength myself, and I had a team of physicians who listened to me diligently and answered all my questions. Between God and the medical staff, I felt like I had a pretty powerful team on my side in this cancer battle, which encouraged me and minimized my dreaded fear. I was ready to go to war packing that hardy and brutal ammunition known as chemotherapy.

Words & Coffee: Breast Cancer Warrior

I will be forever grateful to the doctors at Mayo because, although they frequently noted, “You’re too young; this is almost certainly not cancer” and “It would be very unusual for it to be cancer when you’re young and pregnant”, etc., they still took the time to send me from primary physician to ultrasound to biopsy when I found a lump during the 3^rd trimester of my pregnancy. They were thorough when they could have easily disregarded it as just another odd pregnancy symptom.  

Though 1 in 8 women will develop breast cancer, the risk of it developing in your thirties is just .4%* and its even more rare to be diagnosed during pregnancy.** I am used to being a bit of a unicorn in some ways, but usually it’s something more pleasant, like having all sons after having only sisters, or being both ginger and blue-eyed (interestingly, we make up just .17% of the population***). Being a rarity in the cancer world seemed somehow more frightening, especially at first. I didn’t know how to react when I first received the phone call from the doctor:

“The tumor tested positive for breast cancer.”

I think I was in shock. “Whoooo.” It was more the rush of air from my lungs than any audible word. 

“How are you doing?”

In my little Midwest Nice voice, I managed, “Good” because that’s what I always said.

I almost heard a smile in his voice. “I’m sure you’re not, but that’s okay. You may feel a lot of different things in the days to come, and all of that is normal. Do you want to ask any questions at this time, or would you rather I tell you a little more about what we’ve found?”

I let him tell me a bit more because my voice had disappeared. He cautioned that he didn’t want to overwhelm me and that there would be a nurse calling to set up an appointment with an oncologist soon. The oncologist would be able to answer my questions and get me started on a treatment path. When I hung up, all I could do was sink to the floor and call, “Eli, help!” As always, my husband came running over.

It was a terrifying paradox to imagine both life and death being created inside me at the same time. I couldn’t help but imagine the cancer as black sludge slinking through my tissue. Pictures that I’d seen of oil spills in the ocean crossed my mind. Here I was minding my own business, judging myself to be a fairly healthy person (and heck, I was growing a tiny human again; wasn’t my body supposed to be strong?), when a dangerous force that I couldn’t control slipped in. This lack of control was also frightening-- not that I’m a control freak, but the idea that I could make good lifestyle choices and still have something like this happen at age 32 threw me off. Although friends and doctors cautioned me against this line of thought, I still couldn’t help but wonder, “What did I do wrong?” I forced myself to a more positive line of thinking, taking each day one step at a time. This has been helpful, but cancer is an emotional rollercoaster, and some days are better than others. 

The oncologist insisted on induction and forbid me from breastfeeding-- two things that alone were tough to deal with and combined felt disheartening, but I knew it was for my own safety and the baby's. He also answered all of my questions, explained treatment options clearly, and confidently told me that I’d get through this. “You’re stubborn,” he said. “My stubborn patients do well.”

After Corey was born, there was a whirlwind week of testing to determine how far the cancer had spread. This was the most difficult time because I’d been warned of how aggressive the tumor was, and any time I dared to research online, I was greeted with the heartbreaking statistics that younger women most often were diagnosed with the worst and most advanced breast cancers and had the least promising prognoses. Did we catch it soon enough? Any slight headache or pain had me panicking. I took deep breaths and focused on my two kiddos and new baby. Family and friends were praying and sending me positive thoughts daily, all of which helped to keep me centered. Finally, we got probably the best news we could get in this situation: the cancer was localized to the left breast and hadn’t spread beyond one axillary lymph node.

Corey and me, strong together.

“It’s curable,” my oncologist said. “Yes, you will go through the treatment, and chemotherapy, surgery, radiation-- none of that will be easy, but you will finish it and go on with your life.”

It’s true. It won’t be an easy process. As I look ahead to months of aggressive chemotherapy to shrink an aggressive cancer, I can’t help but feel nervous and wish I wasn’t in these shoes. Still, I keep my mind tuned to what one of my nurses said after Corey’s delivery: 80% of how you feel is your mind set. In a way, this process may be like labor: each time, I relied on my own focus and breathing to reduce the pain, and, each time, I made it through just fine. I figure I can do other tough things, too. I will get through this, and I will hopefully be stronger for it.                                        

*Cafasso, Jacquelyn. “Everything you should know about breast cancer in your 20’s and 30’s.”

Healthline, 17 Sept. 2019, https://www.healthline.com/health/breast-cancer/breast-cancer-

20s-30s#prevalence-and-incidence

**Keyser, Erin, et. al. “Pregnancy-Associated Breast Cancer.” Reviews in Obstetrics and Gynecology,

            vol. 5, no. 2, 2012, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3410508/.

***Smith, Sam Benson. “This is the rarest hair and eye color combination in humans.” Reader’s 

            Digest, https://www.rd.com/beauty/hair-eye-color-combination-rare/

June Writing Challenge Wrap-up

Last Sunday marked the end of my June Writing Challenge. Though I didn’t write as much as I’d hoped, I still wrote 21,680 words during the month of June, which is pretty exciting! My third Northwoods Barista mystery is now nearly complete, with about sixty thousand words. I have a few minor issues to wrap up and some revision and editing to do, of course, but the book is well on its way. Hooray!

I've made a few discoveries...

Write Early, Write Caffeinated:

I've mentioned it earlier, but I realized that writing early in the day worked well. Writing with caffeine helped even more. If I wrote in the evening, I was not as creative, and I felt like it was more of a chore to complete before I could collapse into bed. Summer is an exciting time for me to be creative, with school out and spending time going on adventures with my two kiddos. But chasing two small people on a playground or at a waterpark out in the sun can take my energy right out some days and doesn't leave much for the evening.

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Community Support:

I know I benefit when I have a community of writers alongside me. That was one great advantage of the time I participated in NaNoWriMo: I had the community alongside me on the site and on Twitter, and people were encouraging each other daily. Another place where I felt a lot of encouragement to write was grad school: all of my fellow writers were eagerly sharing amazing and diverse writing. That alone was inspiration enough to write whatever I felt I had to put on paper. In the future, I want to build more community among my friends who are writers and on Twitter and other platforms to keep myself motivated.

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             Just Be:

                Sometimes, when I write, I feel pressure that I’m not doing things the “right way”, that I need to be submitting my writing to journals, chasing after agents, publishing everything, and marketing myself non-stop. I do realize these things are helpful, especially if I want to make creative writing more of a career and to build a reputation. I do dream of such a day, occasionally, but sometimes, writing is just a way to relax. The school year is so busy—sometimes I wonder how I manage to juggle two teaching jobs, two kids, and keeping the house from looking like a tornado went through (well, some days...). I think part of the reason I can survive the school year is that I make sure I take the time to relax and recover in the summer. I will actually ignore my email for a while. I will sit on the back porch with a glass of iced coffee or lemonade. I will go camping with my family and roast s’mores over a bonfire. I’ll go for a walk or bike ride without a set destination. And I will write what I want to write just for the hell of it.

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June Writing Challenge! (Because November is a busy month for teachers…)

I’ve started my 2^nd Annual June Writing Challenge, with the goal of writing at least 500 words each day of June. So far, I’ve been relatively successful. Unfortunately, I did miss one day—yes, already!
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However, I’m remaining optimistic, especially since I’ve had high word counts some of my other days.

Here are my current stats:

Sat: 598

Sun: 1358

Mon: 0

Tues: 1887

Wed: 514

Thurs: 1828

My observations so far…

I write better in the morning, especially with a caffeinated beverage at my side. If I wait until the end of the day when my kids are asleep, I feel groggy and have a tougher time being creative with my word choice.

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It’s not just about the word count, but also about the quality of the words. This may seem obvious, but, of course, quantity is always easier to measure, so it’s what we tend to work with. I know that, as I looked back on my words from Saturday night, they weren’t as interesting as what I pulled together on Sunday or Tuesday mornings when I was more alert and in a more creative state of mind.

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Using an author’s beat list has been a great help! I’ve re-read what I had of my story last month and created a beat list to help guide me the rest of the way through my mystery novel. Using the list as a guide, I know what main action will take place in each scene and chapter, and it’s been a valuable way to not only keep me organized but also keep me inspired when I’m not sure quite where to start.

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Please feel free to join me if you’re wanting to challenge yourself to get more words on paper this summer!